# Take talk of suicide seriously

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- Language: en
- First published: 2026-09-29
- Evidence checked: 2026-09-29, using AI-assisted source verification
- Clinical review: Not clinically reviewed
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Know how to ask straight out, how to listen, and how to get someone to urgent support.

**The number:** Asking about suicide does not increase suicidal thoughts ([NIMH, 2024](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/5-action-steps-to-help-someone-having-thoughts-of-suicide))

## The evidence

- How sure: Certainty of evidence: Not rated. Measured in people with ADHD.
- Evidence grade: C. Grade C: small or mixed studies, expert consensus or clinical practice. Worth knowing, not worth betting on.
- Basis: Longitudinal observational meta-analysis in ADHD (Tier 2) for risk; NIMH general suicide-prevention guidance for actions, with no ADHD-specific intervention estimate.
- Benefit: 72/100. The benefit score is an editorial prioritization for the general list, weighted by certainty. It is not a prediction of what will happen for you.

## Why it matters

In a meta-analysis of 9 longitudinal studies, children and teenagers with ADHD had about 3.3 times the odds of later suicidal thoughts or behaviour, with large differences between studies. This association cannot predict any one person's future, and it does not make suicide inevitable. NIMH's advice is to ask directly, listen without judging and help the person connect with support. Studies show that asking does not increase suicidal thoughts.

## How to do it

1. If you're worried, ask plainly and calmly whether they are thinking about suicide.
2. Take the answer seriously and keep listening. Then help them reach a crisis service or a professional they trust.
3. If there is immediate danger, call emergency services and stay with them if it is safe to.
4. If these feelings are yours, tell someone directly and get help now. Don't carry it alone.

## Talk to a clinician first

If you or someone else may act on suicidal thoughts, call your local emergency number now, or contact a crisis line or suicide prevention helpline in your country. Do not wait for a scheduled appointment.

## Putting it into practice

### Start now

- 1 minute: Practise saying it out loud: 'I am struggling and need someone to stay with me while I get help.'
- 5 minutes: Identify your local crisis service and a trusted person you could contact; do not delay urgent help to do this.
- 15 minutes: Read NIMH's action steps with a trusted person and discuss how you would help each other reach support.

### What it looks like

- 'Are you thinking about suicide?' is clearer than 'You would not do anything silly, would you?'
- 'I am not feeling safe and need help now' is enough to start asking for support.

### Common mistakes

- Don't promise secrecy. Keeping that door open lets you bring in urgent support when safety is at risk.
- Don't use ADHD statistics to predict one person's risk. Respond to what they say and what is happening now.

### Trusted how-to guides

- [5 Action Steps to Help Someone Having Thoughts of Suicide](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/5-action-steps-to-help-someone-having-thoughts-of-suicide), NIMH

## Sources

- [5 Action Steps to Help Someone Having Thoughts of Suicide](https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/5-action-steps-to-help-someone-having-thoughts-of-suicide), NIMH, 2024 (Tier 1 guideline)
- [Longitudinal Suicide Risk in Children and Adolescents With Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC12177204/), Brain and Behavior, 2025 (Tier 2 study)

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